Mother’s Day was a few weeks ago and with it I got a HUGE epiphany. Since then I’ve shed a draining obligation, and I have become a new person!
Do you have draining, soul-sucking obligations that you want to get rid of? Then you’ll LOVE this too.
First, a little back story: My kids are 17 and 19 years old, and my 19-year-old daughter just returned home from college. Her return home has brought in with it a lot of new expenses, laundry, and different grocery items to be purchased.
The “old me” thought that it was my motherly obligation to do her laundry, buy her different groceries, and go with her to get treats that she likes to get such as bubble tea or lavender lattes or macarons. (Raise your hand if you can relate.)
It’s the same with my son– even though he’s completed his high school exams, my motherly obligations of grocery shopping, cooking the meals, cleaning up after the meals, laundry, etc. continue…yet it’s in stark contrast with how it went on Mother’s Day..
On Mother’s Day, I wasn’t allowed to lift a finger for any meal prep. Breakfast was delivered to me. A fancy lunch was placed in my car and flowers were given to me to set a lovely table at a local picnic table by the lake.
I mean, they did it ALL.
And it hit me—-why am I only relieved of meal prep and cleaning responsibilities on Mother’s Day? Who told me I had to do all of this on the other 364 days of the year?
If you’re anything like me, I’m guessing you can relate.
In the past I would have just plowed forward and continued to do all these duties. But not anymore. I want my time and energy back, so I developed a way out of the constant cycle!
So what did I do? I developed a system to fairly divide the chores and put an accountability system in place to make sure it happens. It’s simple, easy, and clear. In fact it’s so simple, I can’t believe I didn’t think about it ages ago!
Two weeks have passed now and I fully anticipate all the chores will be done.
But full disclosure? They are not happening in the timeframe that I would like them to be completed… Which I am sensing is why I began doing all daily chores every single day of every single week in the first place.
Why did I do them all? Because I wanted the chores to be completed on MY time frame, clothes washed and folded MY way, and dishes stacked in a way that made sense to ME.
See, this was my fatal flaw– The need for CONTROL. Once I learned how to relinquish that, I was able to enjoy my newly found free time.
What I have been doing these past two weeks (instead of going into my controlled and efficient completion of all chores mode) is to …
- go outside and listen to the birds
- pet my dog
- paint my fingernails
- go on walks
- call my cousin
- get myself back
- watch a show or a movie or documentary or a 10 minute motivational YouTube video
What I have found is that these are reinvigorating me with utter and expansive and relaxing life!
Relaxation does not have to be reserved for only three weeks a year when on vacation!
You don’t have to drink wine or scream or stomp off to unplug or be heard!!
There’s a whole world waiting for you to be taken!
Ready to relinquish control and come back to yourself? Let me show you how. There’s a whole life waiting for you. I don’t care if it’s been one week or one year (or 19 years like me). Motherhood and wifehood obviously didn’t come with an owners manual for me, so I decided to make my own!
I know better now so I’m doing better.
Now is your time. Hit reply and ask me how!!