Lean into Resourcefulness and Relinquish Control

Lean into Resourcefulness and Relinquish Control

Mother’s Day was a few weeks ago and with it I got a HUGE epiphany. Since then I’ve shed a draining obligation, and I have become a new person!  Do you have draining, soul-sucking obligations that you want to get rid of? Then you’ll LOVE this too. First, a little back story: My kids are 17 and 19 years old, and my 19-year-old daughter just returned home from college. Her return home has brought in with it a lot of new expenses, laundry, and different grocery items to be purchased.  The “old me” thought that it was my motherly obligation to do her laundry, buy her different groceries, and go with her to get treats that she likes to get such as bubble tea or lavender lattes or macarons. (Raise your hand if you can relate.) It’s the same with my son– even though he’s completed his high school exams, my motherly obligations of grocery shopping, cooking the meals, cleaning up after the meals, laundry, etc. continue…yet it’s in stark contrast with how it went on Mother’s Day.. On Mother’s Day, I wasn’t allowed to lift a finger for any meal prep. Breakfast was delivered to me. A fancy lunch was placed in my car and flowers were given to me to set a lovely table at a local picnic table by the lake. I mean, they did it ALL. And it hit me—-why am I only relieved of meal prep and cleaning responsibilities on Mother’s Day? Who told me I had to do all of this on the other 364 days of the year? If you’re anything like me, I’m guessing you can relate.  In the past I would have just plowed forward and continued to do all these duties. But not anymore. I want my time and energy …

Living US Life Style

Living the average US lifestyle

Living the average US lifestyle shaves an entire decade off of our potential maximum life span. Are you wanting to be around as long as possible to capture the most out of your life? Do you sense that deep pang of sadness when another one of your friends or relatives passes away suddenly, and you know you want to do all you can to soak up all life has to offer from here on out? Well I have some good news! Success leaves clues.  In his book “The Blue Zones”, Dan Beuttner has studied pockets in the world where the largest percentage of centenarians live. We can learn a great deal about how to maximize our longevity by examining their lifestyles. Make sure you are playing with all the pro tips so you can continue to have energy, enjoy vibrant health, and savor those moments and experiences with your loved ones that make life worth living.  One of the most rewarding things you can do to increase your longevity is to have strong family and social networks. The people in the blue zones usually live with their grandchildren and their great grandchildren, giving them a purpose in life and a reason to live. They feel like they matter and they get to participate in important family events. They have friends that visit daily, and always have something to look forward to.  If you don’t live near family, find a hobby you enjoy or volunteer at something that you really love.  Engage regularly in regular, low intensity physical activity such as light household chores and walking slowly. 4-10,000 steps a day gives a constant movement and leads best to optimal health for living a long healthy life. You don’t have to engage in overly strenuous activities. This keeps you agile and …

Mental health during the pandemic

People today think they have to spend lots of effort and money to achieve and then maintain mental health.  I’m here to tell you that is not true.  What if I told you there were methods that were completely free -without spending any extra time or any extra money, free ways for you to maintain your health? Effortlessly and on autopilot.  Your mental health is suffering right now, there are so many things going on in the world right now, we have the pandemic, virtual schools, changes in the economy, some jobs will never come back. First and foremost, one of the best things you can do to maintain your mental health and get rid of the stress is to turn off the news in your bedroom.  You really need to make your bedroom a sanctuary. If you like to watch TV, set limits on your consumption of news. And stop watching two hours before you go to bed.  There are simple ways to make your bedroom a sanctuary , which will signal to your body that entering that sacred room means deep sleep and restoration.  Start by keeping the lights down low once the sun goes down outside.  Use nature as your cue. Place a few drops of  lavender oil on your pillow. If you can, upgrade your pillowcase, your sheets, comforter and  bed clothes to a nicer thread count or material than what you’re using now. After brushing your teeth and washing your face and flossing your teeth, you can then give certain parts of your body extra attention at night, with a lip scrub or a hand scrub – think of all the connections you make using your lips and hands during the day.  Why not love on those parts of you at night? It shows your …